Much drama has centered on how lives change in an instant. Most of us live our lives and have some sense when things are about to change. We sense falling in love or when things are going sour at work.
Then there are those sudden events when things change in a blink. A fall breaks a bone or a car bangs into you.
And then there are those life-changing moments when nothing will be the same.
On Saturday, Robbie’s life, and our family’s life, irrevocably changed. After waking with back pain and leg pain, we took him to the doctor, who sent us to Bridgeport Hospital for testing. Based on what they saw in the blood work, it was decided to send him to hematology specialists at Yale-New Haven hospital.
Sunday afternoon, we met with Drs. Beardsley and Massaro and they finally had the news: Acute Myelogenous Leukemia.
Parents pray for the best and expect the worst and we’d both had leukemia on our mind since we heard the blood work didn’t look right with high white blood cell counts.
Being wired the way we are, both Robbie and I immediately began thinking about the alterations that needed to be made: withdraw from college this semester, stop his job, miss the Farpoint convention, etc. It was how we processed the freaking out and trust me; much of Sunday was given to freaking out and supporting one another.
Most immediately, this means he’ll be Yale-New Haven Hospital for the next month receiving treatment. The entire course of treatment should be about six months but since we don’t know how he’ll respond to the chemo, all we know for now is that he is getting top-notch care. We cannot be happier with the doctors and the nursing staff. (One example: Dr. Massaro called Kate to talk her through the situation after Robbie called to break the news.) His room is comfortable and the facility has wi-fi so Deb and I can try and get some work done while he’s here.
Long-term, this affects Robbie for the rest of his life. He needs to give up alcohol and take better care of his overall health. He needs to decide what he wants to do with the rest of his life as the results may limit some options.
I share this with you not for sympathy but because this will have dramatic effects on my professional life for the next year (I figure). I’ll still posting here and writing most of my projects but it may curtail some convention appearances.
Robbie’s outlook is very strong and positive. He wants to beat this and regain control of his destiny. You should see him with the staff and how concerned he is with how the rest of us are going to live our lives while he’s undergoing treatment.
He breaks our heart and makes us very proud.